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Enneagram 8's Laying Down the Weapons

You don't have to do this.
You don't have to fight.
You don't have to argue.
You don't have to get it all out.
You don't have to make them understand.

You don't have to burst each time the strain builds up.
You don't have to act on these impulses or this anger.
You don't have to defend yourself or what you've done.
You don't have to cope like this.
There is another way,
But to enter it
You must lay down your weapons,
And trust Him to defend you.

You don't have to assert yourself.
You don't have to impress them with your feats.
You don't have to feel threatened by another's strengths.
You don't have to convince anyone of your intentions.
You don't have to control them to protect them.
You don't have to lie to yourself
That this is the way you have to live;
Because you don't.
There is another way,
But to walk that way
You must stop wielding your weapons
And trust Him to supply your strength.

Trust Him to safeguard your goodness.
Trust Him to map your next steps,
Trust Him to give you your dues.
Trust Him to lead all the others.
Trust Him in all things.

Tell me,
What happens if you stop?
What happens if you keep quiet?
What happens if you don't fight anymore?
You may just see the gap
That only Christ fills
And you may invite Him to fill it.


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