I don't care how old this book is (published 1988), it has such delightfully practical words for parents of both home and online schooled children alike. In fact, I'd like to recommend this book to every mom who is stuck in quarantine with kids. After all, everyone needs to know how to talk to relatives who don't agree with our decisions, how to make decisions and stay flexible, how to discipline well, how to view cleaning, cooking, and laundry realistically, how to understand the limited abilities of our kids, how to put the most important things first, and yes, how to teach our kids stuff.
The thing I like most about this book is that it's all straight talk. It's not full of whimsical tra-la-la about the idyllic life of homeschooling. And it's not full of a bunch of over-educated technical blather. This was written by a mom of seven kids who at one point or another home schooled all of them. It's written in plain English about real life!
Yes! Finally a mom who doesn't admit that she has a fool-proof cleaning method! I found that highly refreshing. I also found her stories very comforting. Oh, good, she's been through that to the nth degree; I guess my life is normal.
Let's make no mistake. This is a Christian book written by a Christian woman about Christian home schooling, so many of its ideas are unpopular or considered outdated, things like, submit to your husband and submit to God and your children are little sinners who need to be taught what's right. This is not a humanistic or child-centered approach. It's a biblical approach that assumes we didn't create ourselves and that the world doesn't revolve around us or our kids. This book puts God and his word first in understanding our roles as wives and moms. It's very refreshing if you've gotten neck-deep into secular self-help mumbo-jumbo.
Note: some of the parts about curriculum and testing, home schooling organizations and addresses are obviously outdated.
Here are some of my favorite quotes.
" . . . it is common for people to feel threatened by anyone who is doing something different . . . When people feel threatened by our 'radical plans,' they may need to come up with reasons why what you are doing is a bad idea, so they will feel justified in not doing it themselves." (Shackelford & White, 4)
"It is important to remember that God gave children parents because they need us! It is our job to teach our children to obey. This is not based on the fact that we are perfect or even obedient ourselves. It is based on the authority that has been given to us by God over our children. If a policeman stops us for running a red light, we can't say, 'You have no right to give me a ticket! You do things wrong yourself, you know! And besides, you have a grumpy attitude!' No, he has a right and a duty to give us a ticket based on the fact that we did wrong and he has been given the authority to stop us when we do wrong. His personal righteousness or personality have nothing to do with it." (Shackelford & White, 133)
"Any time you set a goal that requires another individual's efforts, cooperation, participation, or enthusiasm, you are setting yourself up for problems. You cannot control other people." (Shackelford & White, 160)
"It is my experience that what home schooling moms need is people rather than more activities." (Shackelford & White, 167)
"If we are serving the Lord, however, rather than people, we can find joy in our service to others." (Shackelford & White, 171)